Thank you for bringing this conversation up. I’m so tired of discussing my past sexual abuse and how men need to change their behavior toward women and hearing, “But not all men do that!” Yes, yes, I am aware that not all men do that. My husband has never hurt me, but men in my past have. Men in my mom’s past have. The lady beside me in the elevator might have been hurt like I have been hurt by a man. Sadly, it is very common, which means a lot of men have exhibited this behavior. When we say, “men need to change”, we are not referring to every single man with a pulse. We are referring to the culture that some men perpetuate. The culture that says they have a right to my body because they bear a penis. That is the culture that needs to change. Not all men suck. The culture sucks.

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